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Re: A Friendly Reminder About Baiting, Harassment, and the R

Postby Stardust (186190305) » Fri Jun 04, 2021 3:13 pm

Quarantined Mata (13429328) wrote:
Stardust (186190305) wrote:
Erwyle (187240896) wrote:
Stardust (186190305) wrote:
Lilium Bosniacum (10205906) wrote:Speaking about "digging in the past"...

If people don't talk about the past, especially if it has infulence on the present and the future, then things can't never be solved. That is why people invented history lessons in the first place. So the lessons can be learned from it and not putted under the carpet. There are people who simply can't just 1-2-3 act like nothing happend and move on. They need to be heard.
I believe we are here now, because we couldn't talk about problems, without fear for being banned. Problems can get solved only by talk, talk and talk.


Oh, I certainly agree with you that problems can be solved by talk and talk (in civil manner) between the two parties (either here or by PMs), so that no misunderstanding is left. I believe many of the problems here are due to misunderstandings. What I don't agree, as I mentioned in my earlier post, is if the other party has left the Forum and most probably not reading what was being said about him or her. I think it is unfair because there would be no chance for the absent person to clarify, explain, refute, or defend herself or himself :)


I'm wondering how someone would go about refuting the truth or excusing inexcusable behavior. It seems they wouldn't be able.
:eh:
Further, if I knew I had hurt someone, I might try to rectify the situation. But that's just me...
:idea:


Whatever the real truth is, I just do not feel comfortable, as if seeing a defendant being tried in absentia and is without any Defense Attorney.


Exactly. :thumbsup:

Everybody here talks like BVG got rid of the monster, but forgets to look themselves in the mirror.


Oh wow, and I included John 8:7 before reading your post :silly:
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Re: A Friendly Reminder About Baiting, Harassment, and the R

Postby Chris (4327680) » Fri Jun 04, 2021 3:42 pm

Lilium Bosniacum (10205906) wrote:Speaking about "digging in the past"...

If people don't talk about the past, especially if it has infulence on the present and the future, then things can't never be solved. That is why people invented history lessons in the first place. So the lessons can be learned from it and not putted under the carpet. There are people who simply can't just 1-2-3 act like nothing happend and move on. They need to be heard.
I believe we are here now, because we couldn't talk about problems, without fear for being banned. Problems can get solved only by talk, talk and talk.

That's how I handle things. There are several I either battled with at some point or had some miscommunication with who would attest. May I add, though - take it to PM. Easiest way to avoid piling on (including bullying) and more miscommunication and chaos.

I firmly believe that when someone hurts you, that's on them, BUT, if you don't find some way to move past it and continue to have it sour your mood, your interactions, your life... that's on you. We're never going to get the apology we want from 95% of people we clash with. We can't let ourselves become bitter old souls by just hanging onto and piling that stuff up further and further. (Which is why I keep coming back.)
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Re: A Friendly Reminder About Baiting, Harassment, and the R

Postby Denna (10205906) » Fri Jun 04, 2021 6:37 pm

Chris (4327680) wrote:
Lilium Bosniacum (10205906) wrote:Speaking about "digging in the past"...

If people don't talk about the past, especially if it has infulence on the present and the future, then things can't never be solved. That is why people invented history lessons in the first place. So the lessons can be learned from it and not putted under the carpet. There are people who simply can't just 1-2-3 act like nothing happend and move on. They need to be heard.
I believe we are here now, because we couldn't talk about problems, without fear for being banned. Problems can get solved only by talk, talk and talk.

That's how I handle things. There are several I either battled with at some point or had some miscommunication with who would attest. May I add, though - take it to PM. Easiest way to avoid piling on (including bullying) and more miscommunication and chaos.

I firmly believe that when someone hurts you, that's on them, BUT, if you don't find some way to move past it and continue to have it sour your mood, your interactions, your life... that's on you. We're never going to get the apology we want from 95% of people we clash with. We can't let ourselves become bitter old souls by just hanging onto and piling that stuff up further and further. (Which is why I keep coming back.)


I know Chris, I wrote in one of my earlier comments that in the past I contacted some people, we exchanged PM's and everything is fine. I have many, many PM's saved. Idk about 95%, but maybe you would be surprised that people do apologize to each other. I know I did and I know people apologized to me too.
But on the other side, it does'nt work with some people. Some have their PM locked , due privacy or whatever their reason is. And some sent nasty PM and then locked their PM, so they couldn't get answer. True story. So that also says a lot about who wants and who doesn't want to solve "misunderstandings".
That is also why I wrote, to people who maybe don't know: PM can be reported too, use it.
I am not bitter , but I am not jumping from happiness either and I can't act like everything is sunshine and flowers in few days. That is not how it works. Some things need a time to settle down. Not just for me, but I understand anyone who got hurt.
And if anyone feels like I hurt her/him, my PM always was and will be open. Here or in game, no problem :)
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Re: A Friendly Reminder About Baiting, Harassment, and the R

Postby Mir (102794171) » Fri Jun 04, 2021 7:18 pm

I think a lot of the problems that have happened in here and are still happening in here regardless of what BVG does has a lot to do with jealousy, control and maybe just a little bit of "Living in each others back pockets a little too much"

I love the game. I love the fact that there are other people like me who love the game just as much. But I think we can get a little too involved with situations/views/opinions/items that have to do with the game and sometimes flow into our lives unintentionally. At least that's just my point of view, for whatever it's worth.

I keep my real life to myself. This whole internet business has a tendency to bite you in the butt when you least expect it if you share more of yourself than you should.
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Re: A Friendly Reminder About Baiting, Harassment, and the R

Postby Pinkylola (235554) » Fri Jun 04, 2021 8:39 pm

Mir (102794171) wrote:I think a lot of the problems that have happened in here and are still happening in here regardless of what BVG does has a lot to do with jealousy, control and maybe just a little bit of "Living in each others back pockets a little too much"

I love the game. I love the fact that there are other people like me who love the game just as much. But I think we can get a little too involved with situations/views/opinions/items that have to do with the game and sometimes flow into our lives unintentionally. At least that's just my point of view, for whatever it's worth.

I keep my real life to myself. This whole internet business has a tendency to bite you in the butt when you least expect it if you share more of yourself than you should.



of topic I love your avi's face :drool:
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Re: A Friendly Reminder About Baiting, Harassment, and the R

Postby Mir (102794171) » Fri Jun 04, 2021 9:06 pm

Pinkylola (235554) wrote:
Mir (102794171) wrote:I think a lot of the problems that have happened in here and are still happening in here regardless of what BVG does has a lot to do with jealousy, control and maybe just a little bit of "Living in each others back pockets a little too much"

I love the game. I love the fact that there are other people like me who love the game just as much. But I think we can get a little too involved with situations/views/opinions/items that have to do with the game and sometimes flow into our lives unintentionally. At least that's just my point of view, for whatever it's worth.

I keep my real life to myself. This whole internet business has a tendency to bite you in the butt when you least expect it if you share more of yourself than you should.



of topic I love your avi's face :drool:


Aw thanks! :hug: You know, to be completely honest with you, I have followed you and a few other Yo's on this forum with your amazing abilities of making your yos look outstanding. Thank you for your lovely compliment but it's in all thanks to you and others that I even get a drop in the bucket with a semi average looking Yo :haha:
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Re: A Friendly Reminder About Baiting, Harassment, and the R

Postby Pinkylola (235554) » Fri Jun 04, 2021 9:29 pm

Omg thank you so much for the compliment :'( :hug:
I'm glad you enjoy my avis, I do enjoy putting them together (I think is the part about the game that I enjoy the most :D ).
You look awesome all the time, I said that I love your avis face because you were naked :haha: :heart:



Mir (102794171) wrote:
Pinkylola (235554) wrote:
Mir (102794171) wrote:I think a lot of the problems that have happened in here and are still happening in here regardless of what BVG does has a lot to do with jealousy, control and maybe just a little bit of "Living in each others back pockets a little too much"

I love the game. I love the fact that there are other people like me who love the game just as much. But I think we can get a little too involved with situations/views/opinions/items that have to do with the game and sometimes flow into our lives unintentionally. At least that's just my point of view, for whatever it's worth.

I keep my real life to myself. This whole internet business has a tendency to bite you in the butt when you least expect it if you share more of yourself than you should.



of topic I love your avi's face :drool:


Aw thanks! :hug: You know, to be completely honest with you, I have followed you and a few other Yo's on this forum with your amazing abilities of making your yos look outstanding. Thank you for your lovely compliment but it's in all thanks to you and others that I even get a drop in the bucket with a semi average looking Yo :haha:
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Re: A Friendly Reminder About Baiting, Harassment, and the R

Postby Mir (102794171) » Fri Jun 04, 2021 9:45 pm

Pinkylola (235554) wrote:Omg thank you so much for the compliment :'( :hug:
I'm glad you enjoy my avis, I do enjoy putting them together (I think is the part about the game that I enjoy the most :D ).
You look awesome all the time, I said that I love your avis face because you were naked :haha: :heart:



Mir (102794171) wrote:
Pinkylola (235554) wrote:
Mir (102794171) wrote:I think a lot of the problems that have happened in here and are still happening in here regardless of what BVG does has a lot to do with jealousy, control and maybe just a little bit of "Living in each others back pockets a little too much"

I love the game. I love the fact that there are other people like me who love the game just as much. But I think we can get a little too involved with situations/views/opinions/items that have to do with the game and sometimes flow into our lives unintentionally. At least that's just my point of view, for whatever it's worth.

I keep my real life to myself. This whole internet business has a tendency to bite you in the butt when you least expect it if you share more of yourself than you should.



of topic I love your avi's face :drool:


Aw thanks! :hug: You know, to be completely honest with you, I have followed you and a few other Yo's on this forum with your amazing abilities of making your yos look outstanding. Thank you for your lovely compliment but it's in all thanks to you and others that I even get a drop in the bucket with a semi average looking Yo :haha:


:haha: :haha: yeah that was me hiding my back pockets :angel: :haha: *kicks yoworld servers*
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Re: A Friendly Reminder About Baiting, Harassment, and the R

Postby Pinkylola (235554) » Fri Jun 04, 2021 9:53 pm

Mir (102794171) wrote:
Pinkylola (235554) wrote:Omg thank you so much for the compliment :'( :hug:
I'm glad you enjoy my avis, I do enjoy putting them together (I think is the part about the game that I enjoy the most :D ).
You look awesome all the time, I said that I love your avis face because you were naked :haha: :heart:



Mir (102794171) wrote:
Pinkylola (235554) wrote:
Mir (102794171) wrote:I think a lot of the problems that have happened in here and are still happening in here regardless of what BVG does has a lot to do with jealousy, control and maybe just a little bit of "Living in each others back pockets a little too much"

I love the game. I love the fact that there are other people like me who love the game just as much. But I think we can get a little too involved with situations/views/opinions/items that have to do with the game and sometimes flow into our lives unintentionally. At least that's just my point of view, for whatever it's worth.

I keep my real life to myself. This whole internet business has a tendency to bite you in the butt when you least expect it if you share more of yourself than you should.



of topic I love your avi's face :drool:


Aw thanks! :hug: You know, to be completely honest with you, I have followed you and a few other Yo's on this forum with your amazing abilities of making your yos look outstanding. Thank you for your lovely compliment but it's in all thanks to you and others that I even get a drop in the bucket with a semi average looking Yo :haha:


:haha: :haha: yeah that was me hiding my back pockets :angel: :haha: *kicks yoworld servers*

:wailing: :haha:
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Re: A Friendly Reminder About Baiting, Harassment, and the R

Postby Stardust (186190305) » Sat Jun 05, 2021 2:27 am

From the start I joined the Forum, I didn't enable my PM and that was not for privacy reason. I just don't like chatting, not a chatter, hardly do that even with my own real-life friends or close relatives. I don't even have WhatsApp or apps like that. I'm a recluse :haha: I think I enabled my PM two years ago for less than 48 hours when I needed to send some link, which is not possible by game inbox. I never sent any nasty or unfriendly message to anyone either, be in game or in any place else. I blocked in-game only after receiving unsolicited or surprise nasty messages in my game inbox. I did not retaliate a single word, I just reported and blocked the sender. Of course after taking screenshots just in case the Vikings ever need them in the future. One of the reasons why after that, my game setting is set to buddy-only. I don't even foe anyone in the Forum. Oh I think one person, the one who posted graphic images of pornography :haha: I like to live my life as simple as possible :)
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Re: A Friendly Reminder About Baiting, Harassment, and the R

Postby Miss T (8432514) » Sat Jun 05, 2021 9:56 am

Erwyle (187240896) wrote:
Lilium Bosniacum (10205906) wrote:[*]
Smitten Kitten (136864592) wrote:
Lilium Bosniacum (10205906) wrote:I would not give all guilt to the vikings.
They simply can't know what is going on in game or somewhere else.
Like for example, Discord chat, where some forumers chatted, exchanged real names and personal info of some people here. And on that same chat they chatted who are they going to jump on forum. That explains a lot of drama threads. Some people tried to point about this,by sending PM's to vikings and they got no response. On one side, I can understand them thinking: I can't babysitting what is going on somewehere on some chat... But on the other side, Imo they should ask those who pointed it: Do you have proof of that? Did you take a screenshot? , because there is directly connection between that group on chat and drama's they caused here.
And also at some forum parties in the past. I was told in PM that my real name was thrown at party, publicly and I don't know whose names else. None of people present at those party said: Hey, that is not ok! So, again: It is not only vikings fault. Playing with people's personal info and life is wrong and it is against the TOS. If we are not allowed to share personal info at forum, in game should be same.


:shocked: :shocked: :shocked: :shocked: :shocked:

This is terrible to hear. o_o


It is... I hope, people who have proof of this, will have courage to stand up and send screenshots to vikings. :thumbsup:


Shortly after getting my boon, a player approched and befriended me only to gain information to destroy my reputation. Sadly, the only thing she could get on me was I lied about my age simply because I didn't want to give real personal information to internet strangers--even ones who are my "friends". She then used this small matter to cause such dissention in this forum for me and so many others.

Fortunately, she's gone now, at least I hope so, but the damage lingers. Ones I thought were friends turned like a pack of wolves. Some understand, some don't. I'm over it somewhat, but the idea that someone could target and ruin people for fun is abhorrent. Not sure what the Vikings can do, but I know what Karma will do...

;)


Just like before - I absent myself from this place and find that I have to return to refute a bunch of spurious cobblers that's been written about me.

1. YOU befriended ME so that you could sell me some of your Royal India collection. Our initial posts will be right here on this forum.....reminds me of that saying 'There's ALWAYS a Tweet'
2. We fell out because I took one of your 'besties' advice to ban you from my forum. I didn't want to, actually. I've got proof of what went down at the time. I've shared it with a couple of people I trust - just so that the truth is out there and every time the lies get told, a couple of FMs are able to shake their heads in disbelief / disappointment. Oh, I made sure to keep the receipts, LOADS OF THEM, because I'm not an idiot. Why on earth would I trust some random online? Time is vindicating.
3. You lied about your age long before I came along - so why you pretend otherwise is beyond me. And besides.........the last time you tried to bat that away, you swore it was because you were scared of being scammed online as an oldie. So either that was a lie or this new version is - make your bloody mind up
4. You were actively encouraged to put your picture on the 'Post a Pic of Yourself' thread, but not by me. You're a smart guy - ask yourself how I could possibly know that? But at the end of the day, YOU could have ignored them but chose not to. Only you know why it was so important to you to pretend to be someone you're not, online.

You told barefaced lies about me previously, saying I hacked your FB account. And here you are again, doing the same thing.

You need to get off of that high horse of yours - the moral high ground does not belong to you.

To pretend that this place became a toxic wasteland because of the actions of a couple of 'bad apples' is absolute cobblers. I can see why some of you comfort yourselves with that notion though.

That way, you don't have to take a good long look in the mirror and own the part YOU played in it's demise.

How many times did YOU pile on? How many times did you backslap and egg on anyone you consider to be 'your peeps?'

I'm gone now......hopefully I won't ever have to come here and do this again but I will be back if you attempt to spout falsehoods about me.

Count on it.
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Re: A Friendly Reminder About Baiting, Harassment, and the R

Postby Contessa (122169953) » Sat Jun 05, 2021 11:28 am

Miss T (8432514) wrote:
Erwyle (187240896) wrote:
Lilium Bosniacum (10205906) wrote:[*]
Smitten Kitten (136864592) wrote:
Lilium Bosniacum (10205906) wrote:I would not give all guilt to the vikings.
They simply can't know what is going on in game or somewhere else.
Like for example, Discord chat, where some forumers chatted, exchanged real names and personal info of some people here. And on that same chat they chatted who are they going to jump on forum. That explains a lot of drama threads. Some people tried to point about this,by sending PM's to vikings and they got no response. On one side, I can understand them thinking: I can't babysitting what is going on somewehere on some chat... But on the other side, Imo they should ask those who pointed it: Do you have proof of that? Did you take a screenshot? , because there is directly connection between that group on chat and drama's they caused here.
And also at some forum parties in the past. I was told in PM that my real name was thrown at party, publicly and I don't know whose names else. None of people present at those party said: Hey, that is not ok! So, again: It is not only vikings fault. Playing with people's personal info and life is wrong and it is against the TOS. If we are not allowed to share personal info at forum, in game should be same.


:shocked: :shocked: :shocked: :shocked: :shocked:

This is terrible to hear. o_o


It is... I hope, people who have proof of this, will have courage to stand up and send screenshots to vikings. :thumbsup:


Shortly after getting my boon, a player approched and befriended me only to gain information to destroy my reputation. Sadly, the only thing she could get on me was I lied about my age simply because I didn't want to give real personal information to internet strangers--even ones who are my "friends". She then used this small matter to cause such dissention in this forum for me and so many others.

Fortunately, she's gone now, at least I hope so, but the damage lingers. Ones I thought were friends turned like a pack of wolves. Some understand, some don't. I'm over it somewhat, but the idea that someone could target and ruin people for fun is abhorrent. Not sure what the Vikings can do, but I know what Karma will do...

;)


Just like before - I absent myself from this place and find that I have to return to refute a bunch of spurious cobblers that's been written about me.

1. YOU befriended ME so that you could sell me some of your Royal India collection. Our initial posts will be right here on this forum.....reminds me of that saying 'There's ALWAYS a Tweet'
2. We fell out because I took one of your 'besties' advice to ban you from my forum. I didn't want to, actually. I've got proof of what went down at the time. I've shared it with a couple of people I trust - just so that the truth is out there and every time the lies get told, a couple of FMs are able to shake their heads in disbelief / disappointment. Oh, I made sure to keep the receipts, LOADS OF THEM, because I'm not an idiot. Why on earth would I trust some random online? Time is vindicating.
3. You lied about your age long before I came along - so why you pretend otherwise is beyond me. And besides.........the last time you tried to bat that away, you swore it was because you were scared of being scammed online as an oldie. So either that was a lie or this new version is - make your bloody mind up
4. You were actively encouraged to put your picture on the 'Post a Pic of Yourself' thread, but not by me. You're a smart guy - ask yourself how I could possibly know that? But at the end of the day, YOU could have ignored them but chose not to. Only you know why it was so important to you to pretend to be someone you're not, online.

You told barefaced lies about me previously, saying I hacked your FB account. And here you are again, doing the same thing.

You need to get off of that high horse of yours - the moral high ground does not belong to you.

To pretend that this place became a toxic wasteland because of the actions of a couple of 'bad apples' is absolute cobblers. I can see why some of you comfort yourselves with that notion though.

That way, you don't have to take a good long look in the mirror and own the part YOU played in it's demise.

How many times did YOU pile on? How many times did you backslap and egg on anyone you consider to be 'your peeps?'

I'm gone now......hopefully I won't ever have to come here and do this again but I will be back if you attempt to spout falsehoods about me.

Count on it.


Great to know what really happened! :rose:


It is very funny to me, to read this thread, and seeing many of the ones that always cause drama, playing victim, giving advice on how to interact, behave, and such.
We all should start working on ourselves first! If we do that, then we will be so busy improving ourselves, that we wouldn't have time to have drama or try to "fix" others behavior. :)
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Re: A Friendly Reminder About Baiting, Harassment, and the R

Postby Stardust (186190305) » Sat Jun 05, 2021 11:43 am

Miss T (8432514) wrote:
Erwyle (187240896) wrote:
Lilium Bosniacum (10205906) wrote:[*]
Smitten Kitten (136864592) wrote:
Lilium Bosniacum (10205906) wrote:I would not give all guilt to the vikings.
They simply can't know what is going on in game or somewhere else.
Like for example, Discord chat, where some forumers chatted, exchanged real names and personal info of some people here. And on that same chat they chatted who are they going to jump on forum. That explains a lot of drama threads. Some people tried to point about this,by sending PM's to vikings and they got no response. On one side, I can understand them thinking: I can't babysitting what is going on somewehere on some chat... But on the other side, Imo they should ask those who pointed it: Do you have proof of that? Did you take a screenshot? , because there is directly connection between that group on chat and drama's they caused here.
And also at some forum parties in the past. I was told in PM that my real name was thrown at party, publicly and I don't know whose names else. None of people present at those party said: Hey, that is not ok! So, again: It is not only vikings fault. Playing with people's personal info and life is wrong and it is against the TOS. If we are not allowed to share personal info at forum, in game should be same.


:shocked: :shocked: :shocked: :shocked: :shocked:

This is terrible to hear. o_o


It is... I hope, people who have proof of this, will have courage to stand up and send screenshots to vikings. :thumbsup:


Shortly after getting my boon, a player approched and befriended me only to gain information to destroy my reputation. Sadly, the only thing she could get on me was I lied about my age simply because I didn't want to give real personal information to internet strangers--even ones who are my "friends". She then used this small matter to cause such dissention in this forum for me and so many others.

Fortunately, she's gone now, at least I hope so, but the damage lingers. Ones I thought were friends turned like a pack of wolves. Some understand, some don't. I'm over it somewhat, but the idea that someone could target and ruin people for fun is abhorrent. Not sure what the Vikings can do, but I know what Karma will do...

;)


Just like before - I absent myself from this place and find that I have to return to refute a bunch of spurious cobblers that's been written about me.

1. YOU befriended ME so that you could sell me some of your Royal India collection. Our initial posts will be right here on this forum.....reminds me of that saying 'There's ALWAYS a Tweet'
2. We fell out because I took one of your 'besties' advice to ban you from my forum. I didn't want to, actually. I've got proof of what went down at the time. I've shared it with a couple of people I trust - just so that the truth is out there and every time the lies get told, a couple of FMs are able to shake their heads in disbelief / disappointment. Oh, I made sure to keep the receipts, LOADS OF THEM, because I'm not an idiot. Why on earth would I trust some random online? Time is vindicating.
3. You lied about your age long before I came along - so why you pretend otherwise is beyond me. And besides.........the last time you tried to bat that away, you swore it was because you were scared of being scammed online as an oldie. So either that was a lie or this new version is - make your bloody mind up
4. You were actively encouraged to put your picture on the 'Post a Pic of Yourself' thread, but not by me. You're a smart guy - ask yourself how I could possibly know that? But at the end of the day, YOU could have ignored them but chose not to. Only you know why it was so important to you to pretend to be someone you're not, online.

You told barefaced lies about me previously, saying I hacked your FB account. And here you are again, doing the same thing.

You need to get off of that high horse of yours - the moral high ground does not belong to you.

To pretend that this place became a toxic wasteland because of the actions of a couple of 'bad apples' is absolute cobblers. I can see why some of you comfort yourselves with that notion though.

That way, you don't have to take a good long look in the mirror and own the part YOU played in it's demise.

How many times did YOU pile on? How many times did you backslap and egg on anyone you consider to be 'your peeps?'

I'm gone now......hopefully I won't ever have to come here and do this again but I will be back if you attempt to spout falsehoods about me.

Count on it.


Glad to know that you are still here, Miss T :hug: This Forum really needs you, the voice of reason and honesty :heart: I'm also glad that you enlightened us about what really happened. I was guessing that it was you being talked about, and was considering asking you about it. Please stay, your presence is being missed here :heart:

Edited to add: This incident onward, I hope this Forum will really become a peaceful one.

:hug: :heart:
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Re: A Friendly Reminder About Baiting, Harassment, and the R

Postby Pinkylola (235554) » Sat Jun 05, 2021 11:49 am

:heart: :trophy:

Stardust (186190305) wrote:
Miss T (8432514) wrote:
Erwyle (187240896) wrote:
Lilium Bosniacum (10205906) wrote:[*]
Smitten Kitten (136864592) wrote:
Lilium Bosniacum (10205906) wrote:I would not give all guilt to the vikings.
They simply can't know what is going on in game or somewhere else.
Like for example, Discord chat, where some forumers chatted, exchanged real names and personal info of some people here. And on that same chat they chatted who are they going to jump on forum. That explains a lot of drama threads. Some people tried to point about this,by sending PM's to vikings and they got no response. On one side, I can understand them thinking: I can't babysitting what is going on somewehere on some chat... But on the other side, Imo they should ask those who pointed it: Do you have proof of that? Did you take a screenshot? , because there is directly connection between that group on chat and drama's they caused here.
And also at some forum parties in the past. I was told in PM that my real name was thrown at party, publicly and I don't know whose names else. None of people present at those party said: Hey, that is not ok! So, again: It is not only vikings fault. Playing with people's personal info and life is wrong and it is against the TOS. If we are not allowed to share personal info at forum, in game should be same.


:shocked: :shocked: :shocked: :shocked: :shocked:

This is terrible to hear. o_o


It is... I hope, people who have proof of this, will have courage to stand up and send screenshots to vikings. :thumbsup:


Shortly after getting my boon, a player approched and befriended me only to gain information to destroy my reputation. Sadly, the only thing she could get on me was I lied about my age simply because I didn't want to give real personal information to internet strangers--even ones who are my "friends". She then used this small matter to cause such dissention in this forum for me and so many others.

Fortunately, she's gone now, at least I hope so, but the damage lingers. Ones I thought were friends turned like a pack of wolves. Some understand, some don't. I'm over it somewhat, but the idea that someone could target and ruin people for fun is abhorrent. Not sure what the Vikings can do, but I know what Karma will do...

;)


Just like before - I absent myself from this place and find that I have to return to refute a bunch of spurious cobblers that's been written about me.

1. YOU befriended ME so that you could sell me some of your Royal India collection. Our initial posts will be right here on this forum.....reminds me of that saying 'There's ALWAYS a Tweet'
2. We fell out because I took one of your 'besties' advice to ban you from my forum. I didn't want to, actually. I've got proof of what went down at the time. I've shared it with a couple of people I trust - just so that the truth is out there and every time the lies get told, a couple of FMs are able to shake their heads in disbelief / disappointment. Oh, I made sure to keep the receipts, LOADS OF THEM, because I'm not an idiot. Why on earth would I trust some random online? Time is vindicating.
3. You lied about your age long before I came along - so why you pretend otherwise is beyond me. And besides.........the last time you tried to bat that away, you swore it was because you were scared of being scammed online as an oldie. So either that was a lie or this new version is - make your bloody mind up
4. You were actively encouraged to put your picture on the 'Post a Pic of Yourself' thread, but not by me. You're a smart guy - ask yourself how I could possibly know that? But at the end of the day, YOU could have ignored them but chose not to. Only you know why it was so important to you to pretend to be someone you're not, online.

You told barefaced lies about me previously, saying I hacked your FB account. And here you are again, doing the same thing.

You need to get off of that high horse of yours - the moral high ground does not belong to you.

To pretend that this place became a toxic wasteland because of the actions of a couple of 'bad apples' is absolute cobblers. I can see why some of you comfort yourselves with that notion though.

That way, you don't have to take a good long look in the mirror and own the part YOU played in it's demise.

How many times did YOU pile on? How many times did you backslap and egg on anyone you consider to be 'your peeps?'

I'm gone now......hopefully I won't ever have to come here and do this again but I will be back if you attempt to spout falsehoods about me.

Count on it.


Glad to know that you are still here, Miss T :hug: This Forum really needs you, the voice of reason and honesty :heart: I'm also glad that you enlightened us about what really happened. I was guessing that it was you being talked about, and was considering asking you about it. Please stay, your presence is being missed here :heart:
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Re: A Friendly Reminder About Baiting, Harassment, and the R

Postby Theresa (122233016) » Sat Jun 05, 2021 12:08 pm

Stardust (186190305) wrote:
Glad to know that you are still here, Miss T :hug: This Forum really needs you, the voice of reason and honesty :heart: I'm also glad that you enlightened us about what really happened. I was guessing that it was you being talked about, and was considering asking you about it. Please stay, your presence is being missed here :heart:

Edited to add: This incident onward, I hope this Forum will really become a peaceful one.

:hug: :heart:

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Re: A Friendly Reminder About Baiting, Harassment, and the R

Postby StephMarie (129969826) » Sat Jun 05, 2021 1:28 pm

I think the crackdown thread needs a crackdown. :sad:
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Re: A Friendly Reminder About Baiting, Harassment, and the R

Postby Stardust (186190305) » Sat Jun 05, 2021 2:29 pm

StephMarie (129969826) wrote:I think the crackdown thread needs a crackdown. :sad:


Nah, it is a good thread. People are trying to understand each other here by explanations, clarifications, answering questions, etc. It is important to understand each other to finally have peace :)
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Re: A Friendly Reminder About Baiting, Harassment, and the R

Postby StephMarie (129969826) » Sat Jun 05, 2021 2:39 pm

Stardust (186190305) wrote:
StephMarie (129969826) wrote:I think the crackdown thread needs a crackdown. :sad:


Nah, it is a good thread. People are trying to understand each other here by explanations, clarifications, answering questions, etc. It is important to understand each other to finally have peace :)


Nah, it's escalating and headed everywhere except toward peace. Pretty sure this is the kind of stuff the Vikings are wanting to see come to an end.
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Re: A Friendly Reminder About Baiting, Harassment, and the R

Postby Stardust (186190305) » Sat Jun 05, 2021 2:49 pm

StephMarie (129969826) wrote:
Stardust (186190305) wrote:
StephMarie (129969826) wrote:I think the crackdown thread needs a crackdown. :sad:


Nah, it is a good thread. People are trying to understand each other here by explanations, clarifications, answering questions, etc. It is important to understand each other to finally have peace :)


Nah, it's escalating and headed everywhere except toward peace. Pretty sure this is the kind of stuff the Vikings are wanting to see come to an end.


I don't see anything escalating? It seems that matters are already settled by now after some clarifications. I saw that there were indeed some baitings and passive aggressive posts in earlier pages, but to me they have all ended up quite well. People have learned to ignore, or talk it out, and it is very good.
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Re: A Friendly Reminder About Baiting, Harassment, and the R

Postby StephMarie (129969826) » Sat Jun 05, 2021 2:54 pm

Stardust (186190305) wrote:
StephMarie (129969826) wrote:
Stardust (186190305) wrote:
StephMarie (129969826) wrote:I think the crackdown thread needs a crackdown. :sad:


Nah, it is a good thread. People are trying to understand each other here by explanations, clarifications, answering questions, etc. It is important to understand each other to finally have peace :)


Nah, it's escalating and headed everywhere except toward peace. Pretty sure this is the kind of stuff the Vikings are wanting to see come to an end.


I don't see anything escalating? It seems that matters are already settled by now after some clarifications. There were indeed some baitings and passive aggressive posts in earlier pages, but to me they have all ended up quite well. People have learned to ignore, or talk it out, and it is very good.


Maybe Viking Andrew can clarify if he thinks what's going on in this thread is 'good' since there seems to be confusion around it.
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